take time to build if they are to last.
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There is something to be said for taking the time to know a person. We, all of us, tend to only show those bits of ourselves we like when first meeting. I do this. I hold in my own insecurities, my own fears, my own shortcomings. I show the brave face. The smile and the laugh. These are the pieces that I show at first. It is not until knowing someone, truly knowing them, that these other sides are shown. That is why building a friendship takes time. Oh, there are those you instantly connect with! It still takes time to truly know them. It is an absolute impossibility to know all there is about someone the very first time you meet them.
It is possible to feel like you have known someone forever. People which that feeling comes to me with are few and far between. Talking to them is comfortable, it comes easy, and it is like a warm blanket wrapping its way around me on a cold winter's night. T'zuri was like that, as was Zarina. I've felt that Fonce could be such a friend, but we are not there yet. Sahli is such a person. Talking to him is easy. I don't have to be afraid that he is going to laugh at me. We share laughter together, yes, but we don't laugh at each other. This is important. It is a part of building that bridge that is a true friendship. One should never be afraid to be themselves around those that they call friend, or to be who they are with those who might become more than friends with. There is no real anything if it is not built on honesty.
We have talked ahns that have felt only like ehn. We have shared some of our own fears, and our own thoughts on our short comings. These talks are parts of the bridge that we are building. Each talk brings us that much closer together. I have never felt this way about a man before. I have never smiled just at the thought of the man. I have never felt my heart swell when I see him walk near by before. It is strange, it is frightening, but it is wonderful. Yes, I know that he has his own past. He's been honest with me about that. I would rather him be honest with me than for our bridge to be built on lies. Bridges built on lies are doomed to eventually crumble under the weight of those lies. The truth is better. The truth is much better.
~~
There is something to be said for taking the time to know a person. We, all of us, tend to only show those bits of ourselves we like when first meeting. I do this. I hold in my own insecurities, my own fears, my own shortcomings. I show the brave face. The smile and the laugh. These are the pieces that I show at first. It is not until knowing someone, truly knowing them, that these other sides are shown. That is why building a friendship takes time. Oh, there are those you instantly connect with! It still takes time to truly know them. It is an absolute impossibility to know all there is about someone the very first time you meet them.
It is possible to feel like you have known someone forever. People which that feeling comes to me with are few and far between. Talking to them is comfortable, it comes easy, and it is like a warm blanket wrapping its way around me on a cold winter's night. T'zuri was like that, as was Zarina. I've felt that Fonce could be such a friend, but we are not there yet. Sahli is such a person. Talking to him is easy. I don't have to be afraid that he is going to laugh at me. We share laughter together, yes, but we don't laugh at each other. This is important. It is a part of building that bridge that is a true friendship. One should never be afraid to be themselves around those that they call friend, or to be who they are with those who might become more than friends with. There is no real anything if it is not built on honesty.
We have talked ahns that have felt only like ehn. We have shared some of our own fears, and our own thoughts on our short comings. These talks are parts of the bridge that we are building. Each talk brings us that much closer together. I have never felt this way about a man before. I have never smiled just at the thought of the man. I have never felt my heart swell when I see him walk near by before. It is strange, it is frightening, but it is wonderful. Yes, I know that he has his own past. He's been honest with me about that. I would rather him be honest with me than for our bridge to be built on lies. Bridges built on lies are doomed to eventually crumble under the weight of those lies. The truth is better. The truth is much better.
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