Confused!

I must admit that I am new to the First Wagons, and I do not yet grasp all the interesting under currents that flit about. I have found things that are not as I have thought they would be, and I have found things exactly as I thought they would be. The contradictions are the hardest to keep track of. Last night, I grew very confused as I watched something play out before my eyes. It was the fact I am so new to the First Wagons that kept me quiet. Maybe there is something I do not understand that was going on behind the scenes? I only know that I sat there and watched a slave that had been dismissed by the woman she served to serve others get scolded for choosing to serve her owner, who happened to be also a Free Man, a Warrior and the UBAR of our tribe. I have no idea why any of that was wrong of her to do? I don't know, but maybe those that scolded the slave felt they should be ranked higher than the Ubar himself? Maybe they thought they should be higher in the slave's estimation than the man? Maybe they feel that here, among the Tuchuk, that a slave being pleasing to men is less important than to women? I don't know. I won't even ask. I will watch and see. It is a contradiction to everything I have ever been taught - and perhaps the whole of the story is not know.